so, how this is going to work is that i’m going to make a few posts in the comments from characters in the chilliad. you can then decide if they are the asshole (ATA) or are not the asshole (NTA). obviously this isn’t actually reddit so the functionality isn’t quite the same, but it’s an experiment! it might fail! let’s do the best we can with the tools we’ve been given!
AITA for kicking two girls out of my fraternity house??
My (22M) girlfriend Nessa (21F) and I have been dating for a little over two years. She's in our sister sorority, and I love her very much. She's VERY hot and VERY scary.
A few week ago, she asked whether her little sister Geni (18F), could live in our frat house for the rest of the semester because she had some problems with her on-campus housing. (For context, this year at my school we had like four dorms have to shut bc they found asbestos in them so a lot of people were unhoused.) I said yes, she could sleep in my room.
After she'd been there for a couple of months, my fraternity had kind of an incident, and two of my frat brothers brought home these other two girls (20F and 21F) who had ALSO been unhoused. We sort of had to keep them because -- kind of a long story, but basically, I stole a truck? And they were in it, so they sort of had blackmail on me, but I only stole the truck as a prank, not as a real crime thing. Anyway, so we had to let them live with us and we didn't have enough space elsewhere, so I moved Geni from my room (I have 2 beds but no roommate because I'm frat president and also I mostly slept elsewhere anyway; Geni and Nessa couldn't stay together because the sorority house is a lot stricter about guests) to sleep on the couch.
When my girlfriend found out, she demanded I kick out the two girls who were staying there, or else she'd break up with me. So ... I did.
But then because of that, two of the frat brothers left, and are living off campus and don't come to any events or ... other frat activities. My girlfriend is still mad at me, even though Geni has come back, and like half the frat isn't talking to me because they blame me for the frat brothers leaving. But I think I had promised that bed to Geni first, so really, it was only fair. Also, I didn't want my girlfriend to break up with me.
-making the girls who were in the stolen truck live in your frat house because now they have blackmail on you?! this sounds like a kidnapping/hostage situation and I'm amazed they didn't leave. or did they try to and you didn't let them?!?! the only thing that makes this not an immediate call to the police is that you then let them leave so that your girlfriend's sister could have the room again, but that's a whole other set of issues
-making the person who had an agreement to use the room sleep on the couch instead, to cover for YOUR problem, without asking or discussing it with her first
-framing this whole series of bad decisions as a random set of unfortunate circumstances that happened to you. honestly dude, this is all on you. you stole a truck, kidnapped two women who were in it, kicked your girlfriend's little sister out of her bed, and then let your girlfriend take responsibility for making decisions about how to handle all of this. you are massively the asshole
If it were just asking a houseguest not to sleep in your bed anymore, that's kinda your prereogative, but breaking a promise to your girlfriend is no bueno, and... did you say you STOLE a TRUCK that had people inside?
NTA for giving Geni your bed, you are right you had promised her the bed first But you are definitely the asshole foe everything else (stealing a truck for a "prank"????????)
YTA. You first went back on a promise to your girlfriend and her sister, then to cover your tracks went back on your promise to the two girls from the truck, then acted surprised when both parties were pissed? Plus if you mostly sleep elsewhere anyways I don't get why you couldn't just give up your bed instead of booting out someone you'd already given a bed to, especially since stealing the truck was your mistake in the first place, and since a girl sleeping in a public place like a couch in a house full of men pings all my Not Safe meters. At the very least you should have talked to your girlfriend about this before you made any drastic decisions, that's like basic relationship stuff.
YTA, bordering on E-S-H, because dear god what the fuck is anyone aside from Geni even doing??? Like, I can't even begin to untangle the kudzu of a situation you have here, but nobody here is working with any braincells intact and I'm honestly surprised nobody's been arrested just yet. This just smells of a bigger story we're not hearing and I don't know if I'm scared to ask for more details or excited. But hey, keep us posted on this trash fire you've got going, it's the most interesting post I've seen in a while to say the least.
YTA!! how is this even a question?? take some responsibility man you STOLE a truck! why did those girls HAVE to live with you? and why would geni (who's a freshman sounds like it) have to deal with YOUR mistakes? n t a for letting those two girls go but the way you framed this is sooooo fucked up.
I'm (20F) an education major, and I do a lot of volunteer work. One of the things that has sort of become a habit is I carry around reward stickers that say stuff like "Good job!" and "Well done!" and gold stars and things. I've kind of gotten into the habit of giving them out to my friends when they do good things. But I've noticed lately ... that I'm a little more generous with my stickers for some people. The other day someone who doesn't get a lot of stickers said that I 'played favorites.'
AITA because I tend to give stickers out more to my friends then to people I don't know that well?
NTA they're your stickers and you're giving them out for fun! By this person's rules, the only way to not "play favorites" would be to give equal stickers to everyone on earth
NTA, but Bree you know we all crave your stickers. We just want to be told we did a good job! Like a needy puppy. Maybe your unfavorite will accept pats on the head instead?
NTA, and we all know since kindergarten that if you want more stickers you gotta work for 'em, that's just how it works. If that person wants a sticker, they just gotta butter you up with good behavior and maybe an apple like a classic teacher's pet :v
I (24M) was throwing a party the other day, and I set up 2 keg lines. One of the kegs was free, and one had a $2 charge but for better beer. After the 2nd keg ran out, I replaced it with the regular beer, but people kept putting money in the money cup. Nobody complained about the beer they got from that second keg and I made a profit.
INFO: was any attempt made to share the information that the beer was not premium? If no, YTA for creating a situation where people will be giving you money for no reason. They wouldn't know the beer was cheap until they'd already paid for it.
imo that still counts as YTA, if a soft one. You volunteered the beers, you set up a pay cup for one beer, and then you kept charging them for the beer they could have gotten for free. You could have at least taken the cup away, or put up a different sign saying it's the same beer.
AITA because I encouraged my best friend to cheat on her boyfriend she barely even liked and they broke up and it sort of broke the entire Greek system at my school?
[posted by u/GimmeTheDeets]
Ok, so earlier this year I thought it would be funny to encourage my best friend (22F) to hook up with this SUPER lame transfer student named, let's say, Marseille (20M). We were all pretty drunk, but I thought it would just be really funny. Anyway, she did it, and got caught by her boyfriend (22M) who freaked out, and they broke up. She wasn't really that sad because her boyfriend was honestly like, SO mediocre, imo. She was definitely bored as fuck with him.
The problem is that afterward, her boyfriend basically launched this whole, like, prank campaign on the fraternity that Marseille is in, and basically it's like, all this big dumb mess now and all the frats are involved and everybody's pissed and for SOME REASON everyone's mad at ME. Like, I'm not the one who hooked up with Marseille. I literally don't even like that guy. He smells like Axe body spray and he paints his nails with Sharpie.
Reddit, AITA?
EDIT: My best friend is now seeing Marseille on what seems to be, for some dumb fucking reason, a monogamous basis.
I'd be tempted to go with ESH, but tbh you sound like the least-culpable person in the story. your friend was the one IN the relationship, so she was the one responsible for her behavior (unless she was too drunk to consent, but it doesn't sound like it from your story). And even your friend just hurt ONE dude, so I don't see why "all the frats" are now involved. This doesn't seem like a situation that got started because one person made a joke, so... NTA?
YTA for encouraging your friend to cheat on her boyfriend; that shit is not cool and it doesn't matter how you feel about the boyfriend. but none of the rest of this....saga.... is on you. your bestie sucks for cheating on her boyfriend; her boyf sucks for starting a prank war; everyone sucks for participating in the war and blaming it on you
ESH, except maybe Marseille if he didn't know your friend was in a relationship. You for encouraging your friend to cheat, you friend for actually cheating and the ex for being and immature idiot and the frats for getting involved
ESH. Encouraging someone to cheat is pretty much never a good thing to do and threw a powder keg into what was clearly an unstable situation, and it seems like everyone involved reacted badly and blew it into something even bigger. So you're not the only one to blame but it was still not a good move
ESH. You kinda suck as a friend if your idea of a fun time is egging your friend to cheat. Your friend purely sucks because cheaters are horrible in general and her boyfriend? taking this *waaaaaaaaaaay* overboard. All of you need to take equal responsibility for this shit, except maybe Marseille if he didn't know he was hitting on someone taken.
ESH not cool to encourage your friend to cheat but also, it sounds like she did of her own free will, so she's the ah too. YTA for that but like everything else sounds like Men Doing Stupid Shit. not on you.
AITA because I keep reminding my ex-girlfriend that she's technically my sister?
[posted by u/SleekZeke]
My (24M) ex-girlfriend (22F) broke up with me by keying my car after she found out I'd, like, basically just kissed another girl (I was drunk, it didn't mean anything). A year after we broke up, our parents met on a singles cruise and got married (yeah). She didn't awnt to tell anyone at school because it would be super weird for people to be like, "they used to fuck, but now they're siblings."
Anyway, I've slipped up a couple of times on campus and accidentally made reference to the fact that our parents are married. She gets really mad at me every time, but I don't think it's fair that I should have to lie about my home life if I don't want to.
EDIT: Yes some of the times I've slipped up have been to win arguments, but that's just because in the heat of the moment sometimes people say things they might not say otherwise.
EDIT 2: Her mom's hot but just to be clear I'd never have sex with her.
EDIT 3: Also this ex is definitely the love of my life I just don't think I'm like, meant to be with just one woman, you know what I mean?
YTA specifically for your third edit. But also seems like you should probably have a conversation with your ex/sister, because the whole "don't tell anyone" isn't working.
YTA. she set a clear boundary and you violated it. end of story. but also like, not only did you violate it you did it to win arguments?? grow up man and stop thinking about fucking your step-mom how on earth is that relevant.
AITA for befriending 2 cops who were questioning me just so they wouldn't press charges?
[posted by u/Throwaway21938092312]
I was brought in for questioning a couple of days ago and basically ended up like, going full Scheherazade to waste time so that they'd have to let me go without booking me. I ended up getting pretty friendly with the cops who had brought me in, but now that everything's kind of past I'm sort of like ... um ... you guys are adults and I literally haven't even officially declared my major. Like they're perfectly nice and stuff, it's just. I've really got my own Stuff going on. Like I'm about to start a band with this girl that likes my poems and I don't really have time to get donuts with the boys.
NTA for not staying friends (cops are not your friends) but Y might be TA depending on if you told them shit that could incriminate your friends!!! Never talk to cops, next time invoke your right to remain silent and lawyer up!!
NTA technically but still kinda a dick move. think about just posting a message saying that you hope everyone is okay, that way you're not marking yourself as safe for no reason
YTA, if you make people think you were nearby, they’re gonna worry about you anyway. I’d go with Sydney Horses’ suggestion instead.
And aren’t you also the guy with the overpriced beer and the stepsister you used to date? Do you make a habit of doing debatably assholish things and then asking Reddit if you crossed a line? Because I think that makes you definitely an asshole.
So I (22F) run an underground fight club at my university. It's totally voluntary, but people definitely bleed a lot. One guy lost all four of his front teeth, it was brutal and SUPER dope. The rules are pretty standard Fight Club rules, although obviously with 100% less, like, terrorism and misogyny vibes. We just hit each other. All genders welcome, all fitness levels welcome.
The rules are: you can always choose to not fight, without penalty, but if you say no to 3 fights in a row you're banned for a month (basically because we don't want a lot of spectators - it's not about spectacle it's about friendly violence); you can't drink more than 2 beers before fighting but you CAN do 1 shot before every fight (maximum 4); and if you pass out you can't fight til you get a doctor's note saying you're okay for strenuous activity.
I guess important context is that technically this is "probably illegal" and "against school rules at the very least".
NTA. Like, I think this is stupid, but if everyone's consenting and you're trying to be relatively safe with it you should follow your weird hearts I guess. It doesn't seem worse than behaviors that are totally tolerated at college, like hazing.
NTA - Look, if people don't want to be fighting, they shouldn't have showed up to Fight Club. Like, what did they expect?
You should definitely be on the lookout for school admin, though. This sounds like a massive liability, and there's nothing school admin fears more than a lawyer.
NTA unless you haven't suspended fight club during the pandemic, do whatever if it's only affecting you but don't spread the rona to innocent roommates/classmates/staff
NTA but definitely cover your bases and your own ass when this inevitably gets busted. Y-T-A however for even talking about it, don't you know the rules man?????
AITA for being in love with my best friend and letting him kiss me a bunch even though I know that he, like, doesn't realize Why He's Doing That?
[posted by u/SneekaPeeK]
Hey guys. So my best friend (20M) and I (20M) are in a frat together. I'm definitely in love with him and have been since like, literally day one (I'm gay & out). Over the course of the last year, we've had ... more than one incident of kissing. Usually for some sort of excuse/reason, where it's like ... a joke, or, like, you know, "I wonder what the Superman kiss is like" or whatever.
Obviously *I* know that this is his way of sort of testing the waters, but I don't think *he* knows that? Is it ok that I keep letting him do this and haven't say anything to him about it? I don't want to freak him out or pressure him before he's ready. But also ... I'm in love with him and I like kissing him, so it feels a little like I'm being, idk, sneaky, or something.
For context, you should know that sometimes he's really, really dumb. Like he's not STUPID but sometimes he's really dumb. It's not impossible that this is gonna take like all 4 years of college for him to figure out.
I would say NTA for now. If he hasn’t realized that’s what he’s doing, he might not be ready to yet.
....that said, if you do feel bad about it, you better figure out how far you’re willing to let this go while he’s not fully aware of it. If you know there’s a danger you might cross a line, then you gotta be sure what that is. ‘Cause it’s just kissing *now* but a lot can happen in four years.
NTA! as long as he's agreeing to kiss you and he's not, like, blackout drunk or anything, it's his choice to do romantic stuff with his gay best friend/roommate. i understand the impulse of not wanting to rush him but you might offer the space for him to talk out His Feelings with you if he needs it? which he probably does. $100 says he's also in love with you
jk jk. NTA because you're not forcing him into anything, but like you're kind of being an asshole to yourself? I get that you don't want to pressure him, but pining after someone you say you're in love with who is totally oblivious is putting yourself in a situation with the potential for a lot of hurt. What if he never figures it out on his own? Or worse, he figures it out and then dates some other boy b/c "wouldn't you have made a move if you liked him like that?" You're playing games with your own feelings, and you deserve to be loved intentionally. So, idk, maybe see if he'll go to a Pride group meeting with you? (even if it's "as a friend for support") Or, like... ask him on a date. He clearly already likes kissing you, maybe he just can't envision the possibility of more
Sweetie, it sounds like you’ve internalized some societal messages about predatory gays. You have consent for what you’re doing and you won’t move forward any without more consent, right? So this seems fine and you’re NTA.
That said, you may want to talk to him about it bc it doesn’t sound like the current state is making you really happy. I’m rooting for you OP!
NTA. It doesn’t sound like you’re pressuring him at all, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it when he kisses you. I would talk to him, though, for both your sakes. You don’t have to confess your feelings or confront him about it or anything, maybe just the next time it happens lightheartedly point out that he does that? If he is questioning, he might want to talk and not know how to bring it up, so inviting that conversation could be a good move on your part. Good luck to both of you!
Y-T-A for fake. This is just a slowburn roommates fic plot you stole from AO3, for shame!
Jokes aside, NTA for being considerate. But don't let this go on for much further if it's starting to make you feel kinda awkward. Just go ask him out already. Just a soft probe of "you wanna have dinner sometime?" or something equally innocuous, see where it goes from there? You're already friends and also technically living together anyways. Also not to be presumptive, but also try and be prepared to just kinda explain things to him if necessary, since some gays and queers dont really realize they're gay and/or queer unless someone explains it to them. Good luck with your personal roommates AU life!
NTA he's initiating everything, you're not asking him to do anything, you're not being predatory. i get the concern. but also, think about yourself please because if this doesnt work out it sounds like it'll really hurt. $100 i dont have says he likes you back but even then, please take care of yourself dude.
AITA for kicking two girls out of my fraternity house??
My (22M) girlfriend Nessa (21F) and I have been dating for a little over two years. She's in our sister sorority, and I love her very much. She's VERY hot and VERY scary.
A few week ago, she asked whether her little sister Geni (18F), could live in our frat house for the rest of the semester because she had some problems with her on-campus housing. (For context, this year at my school we had like four dorms have to shut bc they found asbestos in them so a lot of people were unhoused.) I said yes, she could sleep in my room.
After she'd been there for a couple of months, my fraternity had kind of an incident, and two of my frat brothers brought home these other two girls (20F and 21F) who had ALSO been unhoused. We sort of had to keep them because -- kind of a long story, but basically, I stole a truck? And they were in it, so they sort of had blackmail on me, but I only stole the truck as a prank, not as a real crime thing. Anyway, so we had to let them live with us and we didn't have enough space elsewhere, so I moved Geni from my room (I have 2 beds but no roommate because I'm frat president and also I mostly slept elsewhere anyway; Geni and Nessa couldn't stay together because the sorority house is a lot stricter about guests) to sleep on the couch.
When my girlfriend found out, she demanded I kick out the two girls who were staying there, or else she'd break up with me. So ... I did.
But then because of that, two of the frat brothers left, and are living off campus and don't come to any events or ... other frat activities. My girlfriend is still mad at me, even though Geni has come back, and like half the frat isn't talking to me because they blame me for the frat brothers leaving. But I think I had promised that bed to Geni first, so really, it was only fair. Also, I didn't want my girlfriend to break up with me.
Reddit, AITA?
oof. YTA on so many levels:
-stealing a truck for a "prank"
-making the girls who were in the stolen truck live in your frat house because now they have blackmail on you?! this sounds like a kidnapping/hostage situation and I'm amazed they didn't leave. or did they try to and you didn't let them?!?! the only thing that makes this not an immediate call to the police is that you then let them leave so that your girlfriend's sister could have the room again, but that's a whole other set of issues
-making the person who had an agreement to use the room sleep on the couch instead, to cover for YOUR problem, without asking or discussing it with her first
-framing this whole series of bad decisions as a random set of unfortunate circumstances that happened to you. honestly dude, this is all on you. you stole a truck, kidnapped two women who were in it, kicked your girlfriend's little sister out of her bed, and then let your girlfriend take responsibility for making decisions about how to handle all of this. you are massively the asshole
If it were just asking a houseguest not to sleep in your bed anymore, that's kinda your prereogative, but breaking a promise to your girlfriend is no bueno, and... did you say you STOLE a TRUCK that had people inside?
YTA, dude.
YTA, “my fraternity house”
NTA for giving Geni your bed, you are right you had promised her the bed first But you are definitely the asshole foe everything else (stealing a truck for a "prank"????????)
YTA at some point on the timeline here for sure
YTA. You first went back on a promise to your girlfriend and her sister, then to cover your tracks went back on your promise to the two girls from the truck, then acted surprised when both parties were pissed? Plus if you mostly sleep elsewhere anyways I don't get why you couldn't just give up your bed instead of booting out someone you'd already given a bed to, especially since stealing the truck was your mistake in the first place, and since a girl sleeping in a public place like a couch in a house full of men pings all my Not Safe meters. At the very least you should have talked to your girlfriend about this before you made any drastic decisions, that's like basic relationship stuff.
YTA, bordering on E-S-H, because dear god what the fuck is anyone aside from Geni even doing??? Like, I can't even begin to untangle the kudzu of a situation you have here, but nobody here is working with any braincells intact and I'm honestly surprised nobody's been arrested just yet. This just smells of a bigger story we're not hearing and I don't know if I'm scared to ask for more details or excited. But hey, keep us posted on this trash fire you've got going, it's the most interesting post I've seen in a while to say the least.
YTA!! how is this even a question?? take some responsibility man you STOLE a truck! why did those girls HAVE to live with you? and why would geni (who's a freshman sounds like it) have to deal with YOUR mistakes? n t a for letting those two girls go but the way you framed this is sooooo fucked up.
AITA for showing favoritism with my stickers?
[posted by u/CrisisBreeseiss]
I'm (20F) an education major, and I do a lot of volunteer work. One of the things that has sort of become a habit is I carry around reward stickers that say stuff like "Good job!" and "Well done!" and gold stars and things. I've kind of gotten into the habit of giving them out to my friends when they do good things. But I've noticed lately ... that I'm a little more generous with my stickers for some people. The other day someone who doesn't get a lot of stickers said that I 'played favorites.'
AITA because I tend to give stickers out more to my friends then to people I don't know that well?
NTA, who is keeping track of how many stickers someone else gets??? This is wholesome and your acquaintances need to chill.
NTA they're your stickers and you're giving them out for fun! By this person's rules, the only way to not "play favorites" would be to give equal stickers to everyone on earth
NTA, but Bree you know we all crave your stickers. We just want to be told we did a good job! Like a needy puppy. Maybe your unfavorite will accept pats on the head instead?
NTA sounds like your friends are acting like kindergartners
Maybe that person should consider whether they've done things worthy of a cool sticker lately. NTA
NTA, and we all know since kindergarten that if you want more stickers you gotta work for 'em, that's just how it works. If that person wants a sticker, they just gotta butter you up with good behavior and maybe an apple like a classic teacher's pet :v
nta they're stickers man,,,,, ofc youre giving them to friends over ppl you dont know well,, dude sounds like they have other issues
AITA for overcharging for beer?
[posted by u/SleekZeke]
I (24M) was throwing a party the other day, and I set up 2 keg lines. One of the kegs was free, and one had a $2 charge but for better beer. After the 2nd keg ran out, I replaced it with the regular beer, but people kept putting money in the money cup. Nobody complained about the beer they got from that second keg and I made a profit.
Reddit, AITA?
INFO: was any attempt made to share the information that the beer was not premium? If no, YTA for creating a situation where people will be giving you money for no reason. They wouldn't know the beer was cheap until they'd already paid for it.
[posted by u/SleekZeke] I took down the "premium" sign but I left the cup out. I think it sort of acts as like a donation because I threw the party.
imo that still counts as YTA, if a soft one. You volunteered the beers, you set up a pay cup for one beer, and then you kept charging them for the beer they could have gotten for free. You could have at least taken the cup away, or put up a different sign saying it's the same beer.
NTA you were giving people free???? beer???????? I'm amazed anyone paid $2 for premium beer if there was a free keg.
Have you seen this guy’s posting history? No way this is the full story.
YTA. Just ask for donations like a normal person. Come on.
AITA because I encouraged my best friend to cheat on her boyfriend she barely even liked and they broke up and it sort of broke the entire Greek system at my school?
[posted by u/GimmeTheDeets]
Ok, so earlier this year I thought it would be funny to encourage my best friend (22F) to hook up with this SUPER lame transfer student named, let's say, Marseille (20M). We were all pretty drunk, but I thought it would just be really funny. Anyway, she did it, and got caught by her boyfriend (22M) who freaked out, and they broke up. She wasn't really that sad because her boyfriend was honestly like, SO mediocre, imo. She was definitely bored as fuck with him.
The problem is that afterward, her boyfriend basically launched this whole, like, prank campaign on the fraternity that Marseille is in, and basically it's like, all this big dumb mess now and all the frats are involved and everybody's pissed and for SOME REASON everyone's mad at ME. Like, I'm not the one who hooked up with Marseille. I literally don't even like that guy. He smells like Axe body spray and he paints his nails with Sharpie.
Reddit, AITA?
EDIT: My best friend is now seeing Marseille on what seems to be, for some dumb fucking reason, a monogamous basis.
I'd be tempted to go with ESH, but tbh you sound like the least-culpable person in the story. your friend was the one IN the relationship, so she was the one responsible for her behavior (unless she was too drunk to consent, but it doesn't sound like it from your story). And even your friend just hurt ONE dude, so I don't see why "all the frats" are now involved. This doesn't seem like a situation that got started because one person made a joke, so... NTA?
YTA for encouraging your friend to cheat on her boyfriend; that shit is not cool and it doesn't matter how you feel about the boyfriend. but none of the rest of this....saga.... is on you. your bestie sucks for cheating on her boyfriend; her boyf sucks for starting a prank war; everyone sucks for participating in the war and blaming it on you
ESH, except maybe Marseille if he didn't know your friend was in a relationship. You for encouraging your friend to cheat, you friend for actually cheating and the ex for being and immature idiot and the frats for getting involved
ESH. Wow do I not miss this part of college.
ESH. Encouraging someone to cheat is pretty much never a good thing to do and threw a powder keg into what was clearly an unstable situation, and it seems like everyone involved reacted badly and blew it into something even bigger. So you're not the only one to blame but it was still not a good move
ESH. You kinda suck as a friend if your idea of a fun time is egging your friend to cheat. Your friend purely sucks because cheaters are horrible in general and her boyfriend? taking this *waaaaaaaaaaay* overboard. All of you need to take equal responsibility for this shit, except maybe Marseille if he didn't know he was hitting on someone taken.
ESH not cool to encourage your friend to cheat but also, it sounds like she did of her own free will, so she's the ah too. YTA for that but like everything else sounds like Men Doing Stupid Shit. not on you.
AITA because I keep reminding my ex-girlfriend that she's technically my sister?
[posted by u/SleekZeke]
My (24M) ex-girlfriend (22F) broke up with me by keying my car after she found out I'd, like, basically just kissed another girl (I was drunk, it didn't mean anything). A year after we broke up, our parents met on a singles cruise and got married (yeah). She didn't awnt to tell anyone at school because it would be super weird for people to be like, "they used to fuck, but now they're siblings."
Anyway, I've slipped up a couple of times on campus and accidentally made reference to the fact that our parents are married. She gets really mad at me every time, but I don't think it's fair that I should have to lie about my home life if I don't want to.
EDIT: Yes some of the times I've slipped up have been to win arguments, but that's just because in the heat of the moment sometimes people say things they might not say otherwise.
EDIT 2: Her mom's hot but just to be clear I'd never have sex with her.
EDIT 3: Also this ex is definitely the love of my life I just don't think I'm like, meant to be with just one woman, you know what I mean?
YTA.
There's a lot hanging on that "basically" in your first sentence, but the edits cinched it for me.
you're not the asshole for reminding your ex that she's technically your stepsister. YTA for:
-cheating on her by kissing another girl
-saying that you're not responsible for your actions when drunk
-using something that makes your stepsister uncomfortable against her to win arguments
-saying that you're not responsible for your words when angry
-creeping on your ex's mom (who is now your dad's wife, to add another level of creepy)
YTA specifically for your third edit. But also seems like you should probably have a conversation with your ex/sister, because the whole "don't tell anyone" isn't working.
YTA. Do us a favor and stop browsing r/MGTOW.
YTA. she set a clear boundary and you violated it. end of story. but also like, not only did you violate it you did it to win arguments?? grow up man and stop thinking about fucking your step-mom how on earth is that relevant.
AITA for befriending 2 cops who were questioning me just so they wouldn't press charges?
[posted by u/Throwaway21938092312]
I was brought in for questioning a couple of days ago and basically ended up like, going full Scheherazade to waste time so that they'd have to let me go without booking me. I ended up getting pretty friendly with the cops who had brought me in, but now that everything's kind of past I'm sort of like ... um ... you guys are adults and I literally haven't even officially declared my major. Like they're perfectly nice and stuff, it's just. I've really got my own Stuff going on. Like I'm about to start a band with this girl that likes my poems and I don't really have time to get donuts with the boys.
AITA if I don't stay friends with them?
NTA, acab lolol
"went full Scheherazade" so the cops fell in love with you? Adorable but nah NTA, cops ain't ya friends
NTA. ACAB, YTA if you do stay friends with them, tbh
NTA for not staying friends (cops are not your friends) but Y might be TA depending on if you told them shit that could incriminate your friends!!! Never talk to cops, next time invoke your right to remain silent and lawyer up!!
NTA. I'm fucking laughing. Legit. Leave 'em, ACAB. I would worry about retaliation, however. Because ACAB. Stay safe and good luck with your band!
NTA acab <3
AITA for marking myself safe on Facebook when I'm nowhere near the emergency?
[posted by u/SleekZeke]
I just want people to know I'm ok.
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eW3UGqkyKOk)
NTA technically but still kinda a dick move. think about just posting a message saying that you hope everyone is okay, that way you're not marking yourself as safe for no reason
YTA, if you make people think you were nearby, they’re gonna worry about you anyway. I’d go with Sydney Horses’ suggestion instead.
And aren’t you also the guy with the overpriced beer and the stepsister you used to date? Do you make a habit of doing debatably assholish things and then asking Reddit if you crossed a line? Because I think that makes you definitely an asshole.
NTA but, like, maybe you should get therapy or something?
NTA but like, still kind of a weird thing. Just make a post saying you weren't in the emergency site like a normal person.
NTA but bro get some therapy or smt between this and your other posts you really have Some Issues
AITA for running an underground fight club?
[posted by u/AtheNah]
So I (22F) run an underground fight club at my university. It's totally voluntary, but people definitely bleed a lot. One guy lost all four of his front teeth, it was brutal and SUPER dope. The rules are pretty standard Fight Club rules, although obviously with 100% less, like, terrorism and misogyny vibes. We just hit each other. All genders welcome, all fitness levels welcome.
The rules are: you can always choose to not fight, without penalty, but if you say no to 3 fights in a row you're banned for a month (basically because we don't want a lot of spectators - it's not about spectacle it's about friendly violence); you can't drink more than 2 beers before fighting but you CAN do 1 shot before every fight (maximum 4); and if you pass out you can't fight til you get a doctor's note saying you're okay for strenuous activity.
I guess important context is that technically this is "probably illegal" and "against school rules at the very least".
Reddit, AITA?
NTA. Like, I think this is stupid, but if everyone's consenting and you're trying to be relatively safe with it you should follow your weird hearts I guess. It doesn't seem worse than behaviors that are totally tolerated at college, like hazing.
NTA - Look, if people don't want to be fighting, they shouldn't have showed up to Fight Club. Like, what did they expect?
You should definitely be on the lookout for school admin, though. This sounds like a massive liability, and there's nothing school admin fears more than a lawyer.
NTA unless you haven't suspended fight club during the pandemic, do whatever if it's only affecting you but don't spread the rona to innocent roommates/classmates/staff
YTA for talking about Fight Club. First rule, my dude.
NTA but definitely cover your bases and your own ass when this inevitably gets busted. Y-T-A however for even talking about it, don't you know the rules man?????
NTA but that hinges on you being upfront with the rules. honestly i think youre pretty smart about it so like have fun i guess
AITA for being in love with my best friend and letting him kiss me a bunch even though I know that he, like, doesn't realize Why He's Doing That?
[posted by u/SneekaPeeK]
Hey guys. So my best friend (20M) and I (20M) are in a frat together. I'm definitely in love with him and have been since like, literally day one (I'm gay & out). Over the course of the last year, we've had ... more than one incident of kissing. Usually for some sort of excuse/reason, where it's like ... a joke, or, like, you know, "I wonder what the Superman kiss is like" or whatever.
Obviously *I* know that this is his way of sort of testing the waters, but I don't think *he* knows that? Is it ok that I keep letting him do this and haven't say anything to him about it? I don't want to freak him out or pressure him before he's ready. But also ... I'm in love with him and I like kissing him, so it feels a little like I'm being, idk, sneaky, or something.
For context, you should know that sometimes he's really, really dumb. Like he's not STUPID but sometimes he's really dumb. It's not impossible that this is gonna take like all 4 years of college for him to figure out.
AITA?
EDIT: We're also roommates.
I would say NTA for now. If he hasn’t realized that’s what he’s doing, he might not be ready to yet.
....that said, if you do feel bad about it, you better figure out how far you’re willing to let this go while he’s not fully aware of it. If you know there’s a danger you might cross a line, then you gotta be sure what that is. ‘Cause it’s just kissing *now* but a lot can happen in four years.
NTA! as long as he's agreeing to kiss you and he's not, like, blackout drunk or anything, it's his choice to do romantic stuff with his gay best friend/roommate. i understand the impulse of not wanting to rush him but you might offer the space for him to talk out His Feelings with you if he needs it? which he probably does. $100 says he's also in love with you
OMG they were roommates!
jk jk. NTA because you're not forcing him into anything, but like you're kind of being an asshole to yourself? I get that you don't want to pressure him, but pining after someone you say you're in love with who is totally oblivious is putting yourself in a situation with the potential for a lot of hurt. What if he never figures it out on his own? Or worse, he figures it out and then dates some other boy b/c "wouldn't you have made a move if you liked him like that?" You're playing games with your own feelings, and you deserve to be loved intentionally. So, idk, maybe see if he'll go to a Pride group meeting with you? (even if it's "as a friend for support") Or, like... ask him on a date. He clearly already likes kissing you, maybe he just can't envision the possibility of more
Sweetie, it sounds like you’ve internalized some societal messages about predatory gays. You have consent for what you’re doing and you won’t move forward any without more consent, right? So this seems fine and you’re NTA.
That said, you may want to talk to him about it bc it doesn’t sound like the current state is making you really happy. I’m rooting for you OP!
NTA. This sounds like it belongs on AO3, I'd leave a kudos.
AND THEY WERE ROOMATES, Y'ALL.
NTA. It doesn’t sound like you’re pressuring him at all, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it when he kisses you. I would talk to him, though, for both your sakes. You don’t have to confess your feelings or confront him about it or anything, maybe just the next time it happens lightheartedly point out that he does that? If he is questioning, he might want to talk and not know how to bring it up, so inviting that conversation could be a good move on your part. Good luck to both of you!
Y-T-A for fake. This is just a slowburn roommates fic plot you stole from AO3, for shame!
Jokes aside, NTA for being considerate. But don't let this go on for much further if it's starting to make you feel kinda awkward. Just go ask him out already. Just a soft probe of "you wanna have dinner sometime?" or something equally innocuous, see where it goes from there? You're already friends and also technically living together anyways. Also not to be presumptive, but also try and be prepared to just kinda explain things to him if necessary, since some gays and queers dont really realize they're gay and/or queer unless someone explains it to them. Good luck with your personal roommates AU life!
NTA he's initiating everything, you're not asking him to do anything, you're not being predatory. i get the concern. but also, think about yourself please because if this doesnt work out it sounds like it'll really hurt. $100 i dont have says he likes you back but even then, please take care of yourself dude.
just wanted to say real quick that this thread has been SUPER fun to read back through and i'd love it if you did it again/something similar!!!